Anecdotes from Avi

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Introduction

We are starting a new topic and as usual we take no responsibility for the actions you take to help yourself and your children.  The information I share here is true as it relates to my wife and I, our experience and the knowledge I amassed since our son, Ben, passed on.  With that I expect that you apply the information that I share as it best applies to you and your situation.  With that let’s get started.

At times people do not know what to say or how to act and react with a parent who lost a child.  At times people feel that they need to say something “smart” so that the person who lost a child will feel better; sometimes people try to dictate how the person who lost a child should feel; at times people try to put a time limit to mourning; and at times someone needs to do “a one better” by reporting, to the mourning parent(s), about a loss of someone or someones in their lives.  I will try to bring to light the side of the parent who lost a child, something that most folks did not get to experience (and we all hope that they never do) and deal with the question of how to behave and what to say to someone who lost a child.

Nomenclature

A person who lost his parents is an orphan, a woman who lost her husband is a widow, a man who lost his wife is a widower, but a parent who lost a child has no descriptive word in the English language.  In order to talk about the subject without constantly writing the sentence “a parent who lost a child” I will borrow a phrase from Hebrew “bereaved parent” (הורה שכול).

 

Next anecdote: we will discuss: understanding emotions

 

Avi,

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